The Power of Du'a!

Exam last Wednesday menguji iman aku

Aku prepare ala kadar

& that makes aku ada niat yang tak baik

Tapi dalam masa yang sama aku tak nak buat niat jahat aku tu

Aku doa kat Allah supaya jadikan niat aku tu gagal

AND

Guess what

He did granted my du'a

& I did my exam on my own effort

Today I got back the paper

&

Alhamdulillah, I passed it

I'm happy with what I got even though it wasn't that good

But I don't have to bear the guilty feeling inside

Good enough

NO

It is REALLY good

Thanks Ya Allah

:')

&

He helped me a lot during the examination

I remembered a lot what sir has taught during the class

:')

Thanks again Ya Allah

<3

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Please protect my bestie Ya Allah :(

2-3 hari ni asyik teringatkan dia

tak pasti mengapa

mungkin sebab aku tahu dia tak berapa sihat

di tambah dengan masalah lain

tapi hari ini aku dapat tahu dia sakit teruk

sedih sangat

aku sebagai kawan baik dia tak mampu tolong apa-apa

:'(

sungguh aku sedih dengar cerita dia

masih ada lagi orang yang sanggup buat seperti itu

kenapa tak minta tolong Allah?

kenapa?

kenapa kau buat kawan baik aku macam ni?

kau tak kesian ke ha kat dia?

sampai hati kau

aku tahu aku tak wajar doa yang tak baik untuk orang lain

tapi u messed with my bestie

kau sakitkan dia

apa salah dia kat kau?

haa??

but 1 thing I salute her so much, she keeps on smiling & act like nothing happened to her.

Dia still cheerful depan semua orang & takkan ada yang akan perasan melainkan dia bagi tahu apa yang sebenarnya terjadi.

:')

U've become stronger each day right? :')

p/s: Dear bestie, please be strong (I know u r strong)..I will always pray for u..may Allah protect u from any harm. I love u. Take care :')

Yes, He loves u so much :')

Keep praying, He will always listen :')

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Sahabat!

Kawan makan, gaduh, study, mengarut, gosip etc >,<

She, Jannah, Dila <3

Kenal Dila masa CFS PJ tapi start rapat masa masuk major manufacturing.

Kenal Jannah pun masa dah masuk major.

Dalam kelas manufacturing drawing.

Pe'el lebih kurang, so senang masuk.

Sayang korang <3

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Losing!

Aku yang berdosa

Rapuh

Muhasabah cinta

Yes, I'm in a big trouble.

Have to fix this thing A.S.A.P

To have this kind of feeling is sooooo not good for me

Either internal or external

Not good

Totally

Please please please

Find yourself back

Don't lose yourself Syakirah Zubir!

Just don't!

Fight it

or else........

You know better.

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For you!

Bahagiamu deritaku??

Nope..

Bahagiamu bahagiaku..

That is the real definition for bahagia.

Fullstop.

May that person will be your last.

And I pray that you will be happy with your choice.

May Allah bless both of you.

She looks suitable for you.

;)

p/s: may I get 'someone' too but not now I guess :)

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Lets be nicer!

Past is past but present is where our future lies. Isn't it?

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Saturdate!

*12/4/2014*Saturday*2.00PM-8.30PM*SOGO KL-Kg Baru*

~The Romantic~The Peacemaker~The Romantic~

~Fasiihah~Farah Syakirah~Farina~

May this friendship last forever

6 years of friendship and still counting

<3 <3 <3

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Keys for this life!

One of my friends said this to me:

"She kuat ohh bagi kita. Bagi kita ujian yg She hadapi lgi besar drp kita. Tapi She still kuat, tabah..

She inspire kita. Bila kita ada masalah, kita terus ingat kat She."

Actually, I don't know how strong I am.

I have no other choice instead of being strong at those hard times.

& maybe bcoz of that, this She is exist.

Indeed, for you to be strong (inside), you just have to face all of your difficulties and bear with it.

That is how you become stronger.

&

Be patient for every single time you feel you cannot go further anymore

or you cannot bear the test given to you.

Be patient.

Its the key that lead you to be stronger.

To face this world, this life

All you need is to be patient and strong

Have faith in Allah for every test given to us there have reasons behind it.

Lets have sabr' & be strong!!!

:)

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My Nakama!

I'm glad

Blessed

&

Grateful

coz Allah has sent me lots of good friends

A very good one

They remind me when I was a lil bit astray

They speak the truth

They are real

&

DEFINITELY

They are awesome

They love me that is why they remind me

And that makes me love them even more

:')

<3

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The Power of Muhasabah Diri!

Iman

Kadang kala bertambah

Berkurang

&

Kadang kala maintain je

We know ourselves right?

& thus we should be able to know the level of our iman

Bila rasa iman tu jauuuuuuhhhh meninggalkan kita

Mohon

Cepat-cepat sedarkan diri

Di sini sangat memerlukan muhasabah diri yang sangat tinggi

Iya, surrounding/environment juga penting

Tapi muhasabah diri lagi penting

Cuba duduk kejap (lama lagi bagus)

Lepas tu fikir balik

Fikir lama-lama

Kenapa nak overly attached to this world?

Kenapa?

Lupa kah dunia ni hanya sementara?

ATAU

Terlalu terleka kah sampai tak mampu berpijak pada realiti yang nyata?

Bila rasa jauh daripada ALLAH

Cuba check balik diri ni

Cuba, cuba, cuba dekatkan balik

Baca lah Quran lama-lama

Buat solat sunat taubat

In sha Allah iman itu boleh bertambah kembali

Apa pun, have faith in ALLAH

Have a very strong faith in HIM

Moga iman kita sentiasa terpelihara

in sha Allah

aamiin

:)

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Tersedar!

Time nak jaga hati ni lah baru nak recall kebaikan dia

Baru nak appreciate kesabaran dia terhadap aku

Baru sedar yang dia ada and dia wujud dalam hidup aku selama 6 tahun ini

Maaf

Kerna baru kini aku sedar hanya kau yang benar-benar sabar dengan kasar aku, garang aku, juga kerenah aku

&

Maaf jika aku sering melukai hati mu

Dalam tidak sedarku

Tell them when u r ready to get married only :)

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Journey to find a true love!

True love is hard to find

But once you have found it

You will realize that it is worth of waiting

While you are waiting

You just have to prepare yourselves for the next phase of life

Everyone will die

So, prepare to die

Not everyone will get married

Not everyone will get a chance to have kids

And not everyone will get old

Somehow, somewhere in our life, we will have to stop our journey

Regardless we have prepared for it or not

That is why I'm saying this

You can prepare yourselves to be someone's wife/husband

You can prepare yourselves to be someone's mother/father

BUT

Make sure while you are preparing for those

Prepare for your DEATH too

Coz it is the last phase of life

And it is a certain one

May Allah let us die in a good way..in sha Allah..aamiin

:')

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Turning point of my life!

This is a story I wanna share
:)

I was once a very bad girl
(In my own perspective lah)
But there's a turning point in my life
This one thing
Ohh waittt!!
Maybe it was two things that make my whole life change
The first one is when my mother passed away (al-fatihah)
& the second one is when I broke up
Ya, couple thing
Could not resist it as a teenager I guess
So, these two things really changed me
From dat 'bad' girl into a 'better' one lah
I'm not saying that I'm a saint
Naaaaa, I'm still a human being after all
I still make silly mistakes but not the same mistakes I've did before (hopefully)
Alhamdulillah, Allah gave me a second chance
A chance that might not be given anymore to me (no one knows right?)

That is my turning point
Now, I accept everything that happened sincerely
Bcoz I know this is how Allah wants me to be in the right path back
Alhamdulillah3x :')

I did not change drastically
It takes quite a time for me to change
I changed my attitude (discharged most of my -ve vibes..hihi) first
Then I changed my dress style
I started by buying a larger size of hijab (tudug bawal bidang 50)
Then I threw away my jeans (not really threw it away, I just left it at home..haha)
I bought slacks to replace those jeans
& I started to buy skirts (feminine gittew)
Then slowly I started to wear socks and then handsocks
After some time, I bought a larger hijab (tudung bawal bidang 60)
It took me quite a lot of money
but its okay what
Its like an investment for hereafter right?
& alhamdulillah I'm still istiqamah with this kind of dress style
I did not put make up also
If you knew me before I changed, you will know how I dressed up & obsessed with those eyeliner, mascara etc..lol :P
But I still use compact powder ok?
:P

Some people say its hard to change due to the acceptance from other people
Who cares what other people want to say
You know your intention, then just do it
People will always talk, no one can stop them
If you're gonna listen to everybody's words, then that's it
You are not going anywhere
Just listen to your heart, you know what is good for you
Then just do it
People will only talk at the beginning (maybe they are shock) then they will gradually stop talking bout it
Ya, they must be bored of the same thing right?
They will try to find other issues to talk about
& yippieee you are not gonna be their victim anymore :D

If you really want to change, don't just change to something that favors you more
Yes, it takes time but please don't just change on certain things only
You must accept Islam as a whole
Don't just pick one or two aspects
Pick it as a whole
Arasso?

Lets try our best okay?
Strive for jannah, insyaAllah :)

&
semoga istiqamah dalam mencari redha Allah
:)

p/s: Semua orang pasti ada turning point masing2. Moga turning point itu turning point yg mengubah kita ke arah yg lebih baik lah. Moga kita tetap dengan agama Allah (Islam) sampai lah ke syurga, insyaAllah :')

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Penghapus dosa-dosaku :')

"Dan Kami tidak membebani seseorang melainkan menurut kesanggupannya, dan pada Kami ada satu catatan yang menuturkan dengan sebenarnya, dan mereka tidak dizalimi (dirugikan)."

::Al-Mu'minun: 62::

"dan pasti Kami akan menguji kamu dengan sedikit ketakutan, kelaparan, dan kekurangan jiwa, dan buah-buahan. Dan sampaikanlah khabar gembira kepada orang-orang yang sabar, (iaitu) orang-orang yang apabila ditimpa musibah, mereka berkata "Inna lillahi wa inna ilaihi rajiun" (sesungguhnya kami milik Allah dan kepada-Nyalah kami kembali)."

::Al-Baqarah: 155-156::

Sakit

Mungkin sebagai

kafarah dosa

Mungkin juga ia adalah

nikmat..

Ya, aku sakit

Nikmat sihat ditarik buat masa ini

Sungguh aku rasa tidak sanggup hadap sakit ni lagi

But I have to bear with it

I just need some strength

Please pray for me will ya? :')

Things that I've learnt from this sickness are

1. I know how is the state/condition of other person who have this kind of disease.

2. Aku boleh bayangkan condition orang sakit yg lagi kritikal.

3. Aku belajar makan ala kadar di mana aku boleh rasa apa yg dilalui oleh mereka yg tak mampu pun untuk makan :( Ya, sangat terseksa if tak dapat makan yg secukupnya.

4. Supports from family and friends are precious. Thanks :') 

Only Allah can repay all of your deeds.

5. This sickness reminds me that I'm just a tiny creature that I can't even control anything. The thing that I can do is only accept it (redha), sabr & have faith in Allah's plan. There must be good reasons why He put me in this condition.

May Allah bless all of us

&

Please pray for me.. 

Pleaseeeee :')

p/s: Alhamdulillah kerana masih diberi peluang untuk bernafas di muka bumi ini. Biarpun sakit kita masih hidup. Masih bisa beribadah, masih mampu menyebarkan kebaikan & paling penting masih diberi kesempatan untuk bertaubat. Alhamdulillah juga kerana tahu diri ini disayangi kerana sakit ini adalah untuk menghapuskan dosa-dosa yg telah dilakukan selama ini :')

Alhamdulillah Ya Allah :')

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Nilai sesuatu perbuatan!

Kita tak akan pernah tahu perbuatan apa/yg mana yg akan membawa kita ke syurga/neraka..

Kadangkala perkara itu kita lihat begitu remeh namun besar di sisi Allah..

Jadi, jangan pernah nilai kebaikan yg kau lakukan dengan level yg berlainan..

Anggap sahaja semua kebaikan di dunia ini sangat besar nilainya di sisi Allah..

Begitu juga dengan kejahatan..

Contoh: "Alaaa, aku tipu sikit je..tipu sunat orang cakap."

Bagi kita sikit tapi mungkin perbuatan kita inilah yg membawa kita ke neraka..

Nauzubillahiminzalik..

Jangan menilai DOSA itu sebagai sesuatu yg ringan..

Ya, kita masih punya masa untuk bertaubat..

Lekas, sebelum ajal menjemputmu dahulu..

Ayuh cari redha Allah & jauhkan diri daripada murka-Nya..

InsyaAllah, syurga menantimu..

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4P's!!!!

"Pandai Pinjam Pandai Pulangkan."

Biasa dengar ayat ni kan???

Ayat standard kalau orang lain pinjam barang kita tapi tak pulang2kan..

Ayat yg sama digunakan oleh orang lain kalau kita pandai pinjam barang tapi tak reti2 nak pulangkan..

Everyone pernah berada pada both situations..

Am i right??

Mungkin kadang2 kita tak perasan yg sebenarnya kita berada pada situasi itu..

Kita mesti faham perasaan manusia2 itu kan??

 So, kita pulangkan lah barang yg kita dah pinjam tu..

Mungkin orang tu memerlukan barang tersebut..

Mungkin dia nak guna..

Tapi..tapii..tapi..

Perempuan ni masalah sikit..

Dia tak pandai or tak reti nak tuntut balik barang or benda yg orang lain pinjam daripada dia tu..

Tak kisah la kawan rapat ke tak rapat..

Sebab aku ni perempuan tu yg aku keluarkan statement ni..

Iya, aku memang jenis tak pandai sikit bab ni..

Memang fail..

T___T

& post ni untuk ingatkan diri sendiri jugak yg kadang2 terbabas simpan barang orang lain..hehe

Maaf ye kawan2 kalau aku ada pinjam barang korang or berhutang dengan korang tapi tak pulang2kan lagi & tak bayar2 lagi..

Kalau ada, mohon mesej aku, pm kat fb ka..

Dengan aku cakap je..

Sebab aku tak suka hutang orang..

peace (^^,)v

What u 'give' u 'get' back..hehe :P

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Aku yang dulu bukanlah yang sekarang!

Semua manusia mempunyai masa lampau

Begitu juga aku

Bagi aku, masa lampau yg pernah aku lalui adalah satu tempat di mana aku tidak mahu menjejakkn kaki lagi

sampai bila2 pun

Jadi aku mohon

Aku mohon jangan disingkap masa lampau aku

Kerana aku sudah tiada di 'sana'

Aku sekarang berada di 'sini'

Mencari cinta hakiki

Cinta yang abadi

Mungkin terkadang aku terjatuh, tersungkur

Namun aku tahu aku tidak mahu tersungkur di lembah yang sama

Aku masih melakukan kesilapan

Kerana aku manusia biasa

Manusia yang tidak akan pernah sempurna

Begitu juga kamu, kamu & kamu

Namun kita masih punya waktu

Waktu untuk berubah

Berubah ke arah yang jauh lebih baik

Moga kita selamat sampai ke destinasi yang terakhir

Ya, aku mahu ke syurga

Kamu juga begitu bukan?

Jadi, jangan kita pernah menghukum sesiapa pun berdasarkan masa lampaunya

Setiap orang punya masa hadapan

Dan yang menentukan masa hadapan kita adalah masa kini, bukan masa lampau

Jaga diri kita yang sekarang

Moga kita bertemu di syurga-Nya

InsyaAllah :')

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Cerita Pengajaran!

Hari ni,salah sorang kawan talaqqiku

kantoi dengan syeikh yang dia ada

berhubung dengan seorang wanita

bukan mahram di phone..*yakni

couple*...

kemudian syeikh bagi nasihat yang

sangat lembut tapi betul-betul

menyentuh hati kami semua....

syeikh: kamu suka dia?

fulan: ya syeikh....

syeikh: kamu suka tu suka-suka atau

kamu rasa dia memang yang terbaik

untuk menjadi teman

hidupmu,menjadi ibu untuk

anakmu,menjadi pembantu

agamamu?

fulan: ya syeikh...pada pandangan

saya,dia yang terbaik untuk jadi

teman hidup saya dan agama saya...

syeikh: bila kamu akan menikahinya?

fulan: lepas belajar syeikh...dalam 3

tahun lagi...

syeikh: jadi kenapa kamu rosakkan

dia?kamu bukan nak menikah

sekarang?kamu rosakkan dia

sekarang dan 3 tahun akan datang?

kenapa kamu jadikan air mutlak

menjadi air musta'mal tanpa sebab?

bukankah dia wanita suci yang bakal

menjadi ibu untuk anakmu?kenapa

kamu bercouple dengannya

sedangkan jika kamu sukakan dia,dia

sukakan kamu,bersabarlah hingga

sampai waktu kalian benar-benar

ingin menikah kemudian baru kamu

jumpa ayahnya dan pinang dia

secara suci?bukankah cara itu lebih

suci?wanita umpama air

mutlak,mereka suci,tetapi apabila

mereka mula berhubung dengan

lelaki tanpa sebab,apatah lagi ber

couple,wanita itu umpama air

musta'mal..ia tidak boleh digunakan

untuk bersuci tetapi hanya

digunakan untuk perkara selain

bersuci seperti basuh pinggan,basuh

najis,basuh bontot dan

sebagainya...apa kamu sanggup ibu

untuk anakmu setaraf itu?

sesungguhnya wanita ini akalnya

pendek,nafsu mereka didepankan

atas segalanya,kalau lelaki datang

ucapkan kata-kata palsu,mereka akan

mempercayainya melebihi mereka

percayakan al-quran...sedangkan

lelaki memang perangai mereka

hanya main-main kecuali mereka

benar-benar bersedia untuk

nikah,tapi sekiranya mereka belum

sedia,contohnya mereka masih

belajar dan sebagainya,jelas

permainan mereka dengan wanita itu

hanya tipu daya,tapi tipu daya

semudah itu pun dapat menipu para

wanita hingga membawa mereka ke

ranjang perzinaan..itu tandanya akal

mereka sangat pendek...nabi utuskan

para lelaki sebagai penjaga para

wanita bukan perosak mereka....bagi

kamu,couple,chatting,cakap dalam

phone semua itu dosa kecil

sedangkan ia jelas haram kerana

Allah haramkan kita untuk dekati

zina....dekati zina pun tak

boleh,makna kata kalau kita masih

jauh 50km dari zina,tapi 1cm kita

gerakkan kaki ke arah zina itu telah

haram kerana perintah ini....jadi

janganlah pandang remeh perkara

zina ini...sesungguhnya ramai yang

mati tanpa berzina tetapi di mahsyar

kelak buku amalan mereka penuh

dengan dosa zina.....apa berbaloi

kau bahagia sementara dengan

teman wanita yang kau tak ingin

nikahi diganti dengan azab neraka

yang panasnya 70x ganda api dunia?

note: kepada lelaki bapuk di luar

sana yang gemar permainkan

wanita...ketahuilah bahawa kalian

adalah MUSUH ALLAH DAN MUSUH

RASULULLAH ! ! ! kalian permainkan

para wanita yang akalnya

pendek,tidak dapat bezakan baik dan

buruk...memang para wanita

walaupun akal pendek,tapi mereka

dikurniakan sifat malu yang

tinggi....fb,phone,twitter,internet ni

semua dicipta dajjal untuk

menghakis sifat malu para muslimah

sehingga mereka jadi umpama kucing

betina yang menggoda2 kucing

jantan untuk mengawan...wanita

yang berpurdah yang kononnya

wanita paling pemalu(tak mau orang

lihat wajah merek) pun pamerkan

gambar mereka walaupun berpurdah

di fb untuk tatapan jutaan lelaki

bukan mahram,mereka tanpa segan

silu bergurau senda,tanpa malu

inbox lelaki dan

sebagainya...sekarang akal mereka

tidak dapat jaga diri mereka,bahkan

sifat malu juga tidak dapat jaga diri

mereka..jadi siapa yang

bertanggungjawab menjaga maruah

para bidadari rasulullah kalau bukan

LELAKI???

lelaki yang couple2 dan yang

bersayang2 dengan bukan mahram

atas nama "tunang" tu..tolong

lah....korang ada akal kuat..korang

tak bodoh....korang nak memusuhi

Allah dan rasul,itu hak korang...tapi

korang kena sedar,nanti korang pun

akan ada anak perempuan,korang

suke ke jantan tah mana-mana

berhubung,bermanja,bersayang

secara haram dengan anak

perempuan korang?kalau korang

redha...nampak sangat korang dayus

dan lelaki dayus nabi khabarkan

mereka DIHARAMKAN SYURGA

KEPADANYA WALAUPUN BAUNYA..

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Moga cerita ini dapat membuka mata serta hati anda wahai kaum adam..juga buat kaum hawa..benda x jadi kalau satu pihak sahaja yg layan..moga dapat kita sama2 menjaga hati & hanya yg halal sahaja kita dekati serta cintai..insyaAllah :)

"nabi utuskan

para lelaki sebagai penjaga para

wanita bukan perosak mereka....bagi

kamu,couple,chatting,cakap dalam

phone semua itu dosa kecil

sedangkan ia jelas haram kerana

Allah haramkan kita untuk dekati

zina...."

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Sempurna itu tidak sempurna!

Aku belajar utk menerima kekurangan diri aku..

Aku juga belajar utk menerima kekurangan orang lain..

Kerana aku tahu tiada manusia yang sempurna..

Setiap manusia mempunyai definisi sempurna yg tersendiri..

Jadi, sesama manusia tiada definisi sempurna yg sebenar2nya..

Manusia yang sempurna adalah manusia yg tidak sempurna..

Belajarlah menghargai kekurangan yg ada..

Dan janganlah riak mahupun takbur dengan kelebihan yg ada..

Kerana semua itu milik Allah..

Tiada yg sempurna melainkan Allah..

Be humble, respect others & u will be happy with everything..

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Criteria for a man to be suitable to marry ;)

A sister asked Sheikh Yawar Baig a question regarding marriage;

This was his response.

Question:

I want to get married to this man in my university who says that the best thing for him is to get married to get out of the temptations that surround him. He is still a student on scholarship and has no income or career. What is your advice?

Answer:

جزاك اللهُ خيراً for your question. My advice is that you learn to eat grass. If you marry someone without an income, that is what you will need to be able to do at some point. Sorry to be rude – but as George Bernard Shaw said, ‘You must never be afraid to offend people because that is the only time that they listen.’ So I hope you are offended and can wake up from the hormone induced dream that you are in before it turns into a nightmare.

For a man to be suitable to marry, you must look for three things:

1. How is his Deen?

-Is he on the Shari’ah and Sunnah?

-Is he particular to avoid the doubtful things? (Does he eat doubtful chickens and drink Coke/Pepsi?)

-How are his manners? Not to you – but to all around him.

-Is he argumentative and combative about everything? Is he an auto-refuter?

-Is he kind and considerate to those weaker than him? Does he thank the waiter and the doorman?

-Is there a smile on his face or a frown? Does he have a sense of humor?

-Is he smart? Does he read more than comics? Can you have a serious, sensible conversation with him?

-Is his brain bigger than his biceps? (If he proposed to you without an income, I seriously doubt that it is)

-Is his language that of inclusion or exclusion – looking down on others who he considers as not so good Muslims as himself?

-Does he praise more or criticize more? Is he forgiving of others or eager to expose their faults?

-How particular is he about avoiding Haraam (Sorry to point out, but if he was having conversations with you without a Mahram, he and you were already indulging in Haraam)?

2. Can he support himself?

-How? Not dreams and smooth talk – but actual nuts and bolts. Here and now?

-Has he completed his education? How much longer will that take?

-Will his family support this marriage of yours until he can get a job (lousy situation to be in but better than eating grass)?

-What is his profession and how soon can he get a job?

-What kind of income does he have today and what can he look forward to?

-Is that enough to support you and your family?

-Believe me, today you may think that you can live on love and sunshine but I doubt that you can pay your rent with sunshine. Neither will sunshine buy you bread – that’s why I said that you may like to start eating grass because that is free and maybe you can even hire your services out as a walking lawn mower and make some money as well.

3. How compatible are you with each other and each other’s families?

-That means that you wake up and ask some basic questions like what do they eat?

-Where do they come from? Country and culture. Not race. I have seen marriages between Africans and African Americans break up in six months because Africans and African Americans are two different cultures, even though racially they are the same. Race doesn’t matter. Culture does. Difference is not bad. Incompatibility is. And many a time, difference translates as incompatibility.

-What is the relationship and expectation from the parents in law?

-How do they live? Are they from a multi-marriage culture where your husband-to-be who can’t resist temptations today will once again not be able to resist temptations and will take unto himself another wife; and perhaps another. So how will you take to that?

-What kind of financial background do your husband’s family come from? Is there too much of a disparity?

My mother used to say, ‘To patch a tear in a muslin garment you don’t use gold brocade.’

Finally of all the dumb reasons to marry is to ‘stay out of temptation’. I know I have just put myself in line for the Fatawa of all my ‘strong’ brothers who will strike me down with this and that Hadith. But before I go down, let me say to you, my dear sister, in plain words; What he is saying in effect is that he needs a legal means for sex.

So what happens when the hormones are not boiling any longer? He’s not marrying you for yourself. He is marrying you for himself. That is the worst reason to get married to anyone for. Believe me and wake up. Or keep sleeping and find out for yourself when the dream turns into a nightmare. After all nightmares are also dreams.

I will tell you what happens in 9 cases out of 10. When things get too tough and you demand time, attention and money, he will walk away and you will be left holding the baby – quite literally. Then what are you going to do?

So wake up and answer this questionnaire and if he comes out on top, by all means marry him. If not suggest to him to take cold showers – maybe he should put his bed in the shower – and you focus on your education. You came to the university to study. Not to look at boys. He came to study. Not to look at girls. Concentrate on your education. Get distinction. And go home. And then see what Allah has in store for you in terms of your Rizq – a husband you can look up to and be proud of. A husband who will be proud of you and treat you like a princess – not only during your honeymoon but for all your life.

I wish you all the best in this world and the next.

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